Adam in his own words

 

The following text was written by Adam in the months before he passed away. We hope his words will provide inspiration to young golfers at the beginning of their careers and will demonstrate the level of passion and commitment needed to be successful.

Just an average guy

I have gone through life trying to do something productive everyday. Trying to improve as a person and improving my knowledge as each day goes by.

"The greatest thing about tomorrow is that I will be better than I am today". Tiger Woods.

Whether it was hitting balls, improving my golf game, improving my fitness or improving my understanding of life. One thing I have a passion for is understanding people and why they do what they do. I loved reading books about sports psychology and inspirational stories about great athletes. Each book I read improved my understanding of why they were the best at what they do, and how you needed to think to succeed at anything in life. Suddenly, I was sat in a hospital bed after having an operation. This was extremely frustrating for me. I just wanted to get up and do something constructive. My freedom had been taken away. Suddenly a great appreciation comes for all the smaller things in life like being able to walk, talk and even being able to play golf! That's when I thought the only productive thing I can do lying here is read a book: or even better write one. I know I'm only 23 now but I feel like I have learnt so much in life so far that I wanted to share it with others. Even if only my friends and family read this, or maybe some others, hopefully they can learn something from some of the mistakes I have made in my life.

"Every mistake made is another step forward, as long as you learn from it". Thomas Edison

Some of the most successful people in the world are the ones who have made the most mistakes. So, it is important not to beat yourself up when you do make one, but to make sure you learn from it. Making a mistake and learning from it increases your wisdom and therefore improves your understanding of life.

My experience with my brain tumour wasn't pleasant but if I were asked whether to go through it all again with the same results, I would! It has taught me so much about how sacred life is and that you should always appreciate everything you have. There are not many experiences which make you realise how much you have to be thankful for, and I am grateful for this one. Life is so quick that you never stop and think about the smaller things. Having a brain operation that was a potential risk to my life made me realise what I have to lose. A lot of people (especially Brits) get caught up in the present moment and moan about the smallest and most insignificant things in life, such as the weather or their job. If they spent this time thinking about what they are grateful for and what they have in their life they would live much happier lives. I look at this experience as a positive one as I have learnt to be thankful for everything I have in life. You always take your family for granted; you always expect them to just be there, even if you don't need them. Well I could not have got through this without them and they were there every step of the way to support me. Every time I was lonely in my hospital bed and some friends or family would come to visit, it would make me well up. You can't buy emotions like that.

I have definitely come out of this a stronger person. I feel invincible now and that I can achieve anything I want. I believe that the operation went well because I believed it would go well. I know now I can control anything in my life with the power of my mind.

Ever since my good friend Lee passed away, I have always asked the question "what is the most important thing in life?" If I asked many people this I would get many different responses. Some would say wealth, health, friends, family or love. After searching for the answer, I have realised it can be all of these things and more. I believe the most important thing in life is "necessity".

Life changes from day to day, different situations arise which take priority over others. I know that my priorities were a lot different 4 months ago to what they are now. All that is necessary for me now is to survive this operation and get back to being healthy and tumour free. Whereas what was necessary 4 months ago may have been something smaller like trying to win the golf tournament I was playing. Life is like a book. It is made up of chapters. Different stages in your life - for example your school, university, marriage, kids, career etc. Each chapter is an experience, which you should enjoy and learn everything you can from it. Life changes so much that you cannot place importance on one significant aspect. So surely the most important thing is what is necessary at the time.

I guess the point I am trying to make is to always be thankful and grateful for everything you are given in life. Never expect things to just be there if you're not thankful for them, because there are no guarantees in life. Anything can be taken from you at any stage.